1. Address me by MY chosen title, not someone else's.
There are a lot of questions regarding proper etiquette when communicating with a professional dominatrix, so let's clarify a few things so you don't get yourself into trouble by relying on assumptions and previous experiences with another domme.
You are not to address me as "Miss", "Domina", "Ma'am", etc. You are to formally address me as Ms. Blackwood. "Yes Mistress" or "Yes Goddess" are also acceptable. This is quite possibly one of the most important things to remember, so it's in your best interest to commit it to memory unless you want the rest of your session dedicated to your punishment.
2. When booking be honest about yourself, your experience, and your interests.
Be honest on your form. Don't write "Cuck hopeful" as your name. Use a real name, a middle name, or your slave name if you prefer. Whatever it is... be consistent with the name you use with previous dommes. If you give everyone a different name, email, or phone number I have no way of being able to complete reference checks and your request for a session may be denied. If you are completely new to BDSM and don't have any references, be prepared to supply additional information and book an introductory session.
What you share with me is CONFIDENTIAL and will not be shared with any of my other clients or other dommes. Your honesty and willingness to inform me of previous issues or things you have enjoyed in the past will help me determine our compatibility. I am 100% professional and will never use any information shared with me in confidence against you (unless agreed upon first), nor will I bribe you or attempt to extort money from you.
Application Process:
You'll notice that I don't have a traditional contact form on my website. Instead I have an application with a series of questions that allow me to determine your interests, previous experience, limits, availability, and the likelihood of our compatibility in a session. Take great care when completing it as it will directly impact the nature of your scene.
3. Be Patient.
Lastly, Be patient!
My booking process may be different from what you're used to, but it's more efficient and will actually save you time in the booking process. Follow my instructions and you'll be through the door and ready to play in no time!
If you have sessioned with me before, booking is easy! Just send an email or text with the following information:
- Preferred Days / Times
- Preferred Length of Time
4. Don't use sexually explicit language or text speak in your introduction. It makes you look rude, moronic, and completely eliminates you as a possible client.
"Sup. Can I be your Slave?" - NO.
"Maam, How much?" - NO.
"Free tonight?" - NO.
"You charge more than Mistress X. Can I pay $__ instead?" - NO.
"Long rant about your fantasies including words like "tiny cock" "please mistress" and I dream of being used as a...words words words...no commas, no periods, just a big alphabet soup of a message that hurts my eyes." - NO. There will be plenty of time for dirty talk IN SESSION.
5. Do be a Gentleman.
- Use proper spelling, grammar, and punctuation. Slang, abbreviations, or text speak is not acceptable.
- Be polite! (Avoid vulgarities when communicating with me. Outside of a session, this comes across as disrespectful and I won't tolerate anything other than respectful and obedient behavior from submissive men.)
- Unless you're a regular, do not request last minute bookings with me (within 72 hrs)
- Avoid long-winded messages
- Make sure you use a standard letter format featuring a proper greeting (Good Morning, Good Afternoon, Good Evening, Dear, etc), paragraph, and closer.
- Don't attempt to haggle or manipulate me to get what you want. It won't work.
"Dear Ms. Blackwood,
I’d like to request to serve you on September 30th between 1pm and 3pm.
I also have availability on October 2nd and 3rd between 11am and 9pm.
I am interested in Corporal, CBT, Humiliation, and have a Nylon and Foot Fetish.
I have seen Mistress X and her contact is MistressX@website.com
I hope you'll consider me as a sub. I eagerly await your reply. - YES! YES! YES!
Sincerely,
John"
Pro Tip: Write your message when you're in "work mode". Don't write your first message when you're horny at 3:00am. You'll sound like an untrained drooling idiot and you don't want the kind of domme who will respond to those messages. If you want to attract a professional, write a professional email!
Still unclear about the Rules of Conduct? If you have any questions or require more information,
you can call or message me to discuss things further.
you can call or message me to discuss things further.