Mandatory Reading for Clients: Rules of Conduct, Session Preparation, and Protocols

There are a lot of questions regarding proper etiquette when communicating with a professional Dominatrix, so let's clarify a few things so you don't get yourself into trouble by relying on assumptions and previous experiences with another Mistress. Most importantly: My preferred title is Ms. Blackwood.

You are not to address me as "Miss", "Domina", or "Ma'am." Ms. Victoria is acceptable outside of the dungeon.

* I do not address clients outside of a session. You are also not to address me in public unless you have my permission to do so.

Applying to Serve
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When beginning the booking process it is very important that you are honest about yourself, your prior experiences, and your interests. Your application is not the place to divulge BDSM fantasies or embellish the truth. It is also important to use a real name for vetting purposes. Although many of us in this day and age have privacy concerns​...using fake names or frequently using a different name, email, or phone number will make screening difficult and your application may be denied as a result. I take privacy very seriously and everything that you share with me is confidential. I do not disclose any of your personal information without your written consent. All personal information obtained during the booking process is strictly for screening purposes only. Your honesty and ability to follow directions during this process also tells me a great deal about your character as a submissive. Take great care when completing it as it will affect my decision in the process, as well as the nature of your scene should your application be approved.

If you have sessioned with me before, booking is easy! Just send me an email or text with three potential dates and times, and the session length.  
Avoid long-winded messages and make your email/text as concise and polite as possible. I will not respond to sexually explicit language or "text speak," so be a Gentleman in your correspondence and always use letter format when communicating with me. 

Session Preparation

• Always arrive freshly groomed and showered to your session.
• If you have indicated interests that require internal cleansing, be sure to do so approximately 45min before your session.

          You'll find a great video about backdoor preparation here.

• Do NOT wear strong smelling colognes, perfumes, or sprays. Lightly or preferably unscented deodorant or your natural clean scent is best. I am VERY sensitive to smells, Strong colognes or fragrances are nauseating and migraine inducing for me. If you arrive wearing one, do not be surprised if you are sent home or forced to shower which will cut into your session time.
• Do CONFIRM your appointment at 9:00am on the day of to receive location details. 

          (For safety purposes, the location of your session is not disclosed until you text me at 9:00am the morning of your session to confirm for your appointment that day.            There is a 15 minute grace period. If you do not text me by 9:15am on the day of your session you will not receive the location details and your appointment             will need to be rescheduled and a new deposit provided) 

• Do send me a text to let me know when you are parked. If you are running late always CALL to let me know. If you are up to 15 minutes early simply wait in your car. If you are more than 15 minutes early take a walk around the neighborhood or visit a local Cafe until it's time for your scene to start. Do not arrive with food or beverages unless I have requested that you bring something for me. Food and Drinks are not allowed in the dungeon.
• Do immediately remove your shoes and hang up your coat once inside.
• Do NOT hand me loose cash or ask me questions about your remaining balance at your appointment. My required tributes and deposits are listed on my website here. Remaining tributes must be inside an envelope addressed to me and placed on a table closest to the door inside the room.
• Do Not attempt to change the length of the scene or to dictate your session once it begins. If your requested time slot is for 1 hour, your scene will be 1 hour. I do not negotiate time or tribute required on the day of the scene. All questions and pre-negotiation of our time together must take place prior to your scene (be it in your application or during our pre-scene conversation). Once the scene starts, I play within the limitations previously discussed and will not tolerate you dictating the scene.  If you are an avid Fetishist who does not identify as a submissive, but have a very specific kink you want to explore you will need to specify this in your application as additional tribute may be required.

Safeword
The default safeword for all sessions is: "Mercy, Mistress!" I find that this keeps the energy of the scene intact while making it loud and clear that you are approaching your limit.

After Care

At the end of your session there will be time for after care. Usually, this is when I will allow you to address me informally as Ms. Victoria and speak plainly about the scene, your interests, etc. However, it is important to be respectful and humble oneself at all times. This also extends to the days and weeks after your session when emotions are high and you are reliving the moment of our time together in your mind. Though it may be difficult, resist the urge to be impulsive, informal, or overly familiar. I expect the exact same process to be followed and for all exchanges to be formal, polite, short, and concise unless otherwise stated. Do not send long winded emails. Should you like more guidance or communication after your session I can be reached on Sextpanther. I also offer monthly membership options for slaves in training who require daily or weekly tasks. They are customized to each individual and available only for previous clients who have been approved. Send all inquiries to my email address. 

Still unclear about Session Preparation? If you have any questions or require more information,
you can call me on Niteflirt or message me on Sextpanther to discuss things further.